I thought you might get a kick out of this. Sometimes, in my Relationship Advice w/Anita Charlot group, people will inbox me and ask me to post a question (then answer it) in the group anonymously. I like to be mindful of people’s request, and so I did so on yesterday. I got so tickled by it…I just had to come here and share with you. Here is what I posted on Facebook yesterday…verbatim.
“Just received a question anonymously regarding a text interchange between two people in a relationship. Something that was said out of concern was received by the person on the other end totally out of context and I was asked “what did I do wrong?”
Here is the deal…
You must remember that text messages, just like emails in the work place are without emotion, voice inflection, the tone of concern, etc. What she sent via text – was sent in the right spirit but was taken out of context. The person on the other end took it as though they were telling them what to do and quickly got defensive. Easy mistake and sometimes one that can lead to the demise of relationships…I’ve seen it happen.
You want to be careful what you say via text. Why do you think emoticons are so popular, they were created to attempt to convey the emotion that is missing from the words. However, you have to be careful with those too…you never know how it will come across to the other person.
I was sending what was a smiley with the tongue hanging out on my phone,however, it showed up on the other end looking like a vagina. Thank goodness it was to my bestie in Atlanta (Krys Lassiter), but still…it was hilarious once she asked me “Ummm, why do you keep sending me vagina symbols?” After I stopped snorting while laughing I apologized profusely. We are besties but dang…that made her feel really awkward…and was totally not my intent.
Moral of the story…don’t send vag-looking emoji’s…jkbvs…ha!
No really, stay away from abbreviated words, emoticons as much as possible, etc. If you know you and your mate have communication issues…stick to trying to increase your “live conversations” to keep the possibility of something being taken out of context to a minimum.
Heck…learn from my mistake! 🙂 (that’s a regular smiley face) lol”
Do you think my group member got the message…umm, of course she did!!! Another satisfied client!!!!
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