I didn’t start out a strong and fiercely independent woman. I’ve had to be the strong one, the decision maker and the nurturer of others for so long; I didn’t think that the life that I currently live was possible for me.
In order to attract into my life the quality of love that I wanted, I had to make a conscious effort to let go of my past disappointments and get in touch with what was truly important to me. I had to identify whether or not I was the reason why I didn’t have the love that I so desperately needed. So I set out to learn all that I could about relationships, my feelings and how to combine the two so that I could create the quality of love that I wanted.
I have always been an overachiever. If I was going to walk down the road of introspection…it would be totally barefoot and naked. So I plunged head first into a degree program that was sure to test my faith and rattle my feathers…Metaphysics. It was the hardest challenge I had ever embarked upon. Little did I know that the hardest thing about the entire process was learning to let go and allow love into my life.
There were days when I felt like my fear, anxieties and pain would literally stop my heart from beating. As a single mother, a strong and fiercely independent woman, these emotions were too difficult to deal with so I learned how to push my feelings way down deep inside. If I didn’t allow myself to connect completely to another person then I could save myself from getting hurt. Man was I wrong!!!
Since failure is never an option, I pushed through the pain and the memories, uncovered the blocks to attracting and allowing the love I’ve always wanted into my life. I was often torn between wanting the love and actually being open to receiving it. I misread signals. I made a ton of mistakes. I imagined love where there was none. I trusted individuals that I shouldn’t have and I blamed others for the fact that I couldn’t or shall I say wouldn’t open my heart.
Then after a long hard road, days and nights of working through the memories, the pain, and most of all the fear of being vulnerable…I got it. I understood what was standing in the way. I learned how to connect with another from my “heart space” and I began to replace the painful memories with moments of thanks for all good things in my life. The more I showed gratitude, the more good things I received to be thankful for!
So, how do I stay connected in this way? When I awake in the morning, I give thanks for the new me, the new found understanding of relationships and the ability to not only give love to the person that brings me great happiness but to also receive love. The strong and fiercely independent woman is still there, only she’s learned how to open up her heart enough to allow someone else in…the right someone.
The good energy I generated by tapping into my truth started a ripple effect in my life. Getting clear on the quality of life and love that I wanted…helped me to attract more than what I could have ever expected to receive. As a result, each morning I start my day in a perfect way, reminding myself not to forget to give and receive love and that it’s ok. I have found that one good feeling leads to another. This positive energy boost helps me fly through my daily tasks with energy and momentum and continuously fills my cup so that I can share this new found feeling with you.
I’m not perfect by any stretch of the imagination and I do forget sometimes and can be really moody as well. However, I realize that even the challenges of my day are there for a good reason and I’m grateful for the lessons I continue to learn from these obstacles. I welcome these challenges as they have proved to teach me the very things I need to know or to grow through in one way or another, as I seek the solutions to loving more authentically and more deeply.
Today, I strive to feel and give love to all that I encounter, as the strong and fiercely now INTER-dependent woman that I am and enjoy the energy of it. What about you? Aren’t you tired of maintaining those walls you’ve put up? Tired of fighting so much? Aren’t you ready to let down your guard and be able to trust another again, because you finally trust yourself?
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Here are a few Self-Reflection Questions for you in the meantime:
- Do I tend to push people way that get too close to me?
- Do I allow myself to feel and enjoy nurturing from others and its benefits?
- How will connecting with my truth, accepting and loving myself 100% showing someone my gratitude brought me something good in return?
- How can I show my willingness to be open to love more often?
P.S. The photo attached to this post was shared on Facebook. If you know the artist, please have them connect with me, I would like to give them full credit…it’s the coolest!!!